Saying “no” can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when you want to please everyone. But here are 2 important truths: you can’t please everyone and trying to will shatter your mental and physical well-being. Let’s explore why saying “no” is powerful and how you can do it with confidence.
Respect Your Boundaries:
Your time, energy and personal space are precious. When you say “yes” to things that drain or potentially harm you, you’re saying “no” to yourself. Respect your boundaries and prioritize your well-being.
Example Scenario: If friends invite you out but you’re exhausted, it’s absolutely okay to say, “I’m really tired tonight, but let’s catch up another time”
Financial Boundaries:
Money is tight and in this cost of living crisis living within your means is crucial. Don’t feel pressured to spend money on things that don’t fit your budget. Real friends will understand.
Example Scenario: When invited to an expensive event, try saying something like, “I’m saving up right now, so I’ll have to pass this time.”
Social Situations:
Saying no in social situations is an introvert nightmare (trust me I know). But the discomfort saying “no” will bring is always far less than doing something that you don’t want to. I’m sure all my black girls can relate to the next scenario.
Example Scenario: You’re out and about and someone compliments your hair an reaches out to touch it. Instead of awkwardly letting the strange and unwanted petting happen, try saying this, “I appreciate the compliment, but please don’t touch my hair.”
Protect Your Mental Health:
Sometimes, certain people or situations are just too much drama. Protect your mental health by setting limits.
Example Scenario: If someone is venting too much negativity, gently steer the conversation or excuse yourself: “I’m trying to focus on positive things right now.”
Practice Makes Perfect:
The more you practice saying “no,” the easier it becomes. Start small and work your way up.
Example Scenario: Decline a minor request, like helping out with a task when you’re already swamped: “I’m really busy right now, so I can’t take that on.”
Saying “no” is a skill that empowers you to live authentically and maintain your well-being. Practice it, embrace it, and watch how much more energy and joy you have for the things that truly matter.
You’ve got this,
Pretty Please xo
