Making friends as an adult is awkward. Like, why didn’t they teach this in school? Instead of algebra, they should’ve prepped us for that awkward “so… do you wanna hang out sometime?” convo you have with a coworker or mutual. Because let’s face it: adulting is already overwhelming enough, and finding your people on top of that? Exhausting.
If you’re over surface-level connections and tired of small talk that goes nowhere, you’re not alone. It’s hard out here. But building friendships that actually feel meaningful is very doable—you just need to approach it with a little patience and a lot of intention. Let’s break it down, step by step, and get you connected with your new ride-or-dies.
1. Less Is More, Babe
Having a million “friends” for the sake of it? Overrated. You don’t need a whole entourage to feel like you’ve got a support system. What you do need is a few real ones who show up, who listen, and who won’t flake when you need them most. It’s not about the numbers; it’s about energy.
2. Be the Friend You Want to Find
Okay, hear me out: friendships are a two-way street. You can’t just sit back and expect someone to do all the work. Are you matching their energy? Supporting their wins? Checking in without an ulterior motive? If you want real connections, you’ve gotta show up for them the same way you’d want them to show up for you
3. Make an Effort
Making new friends as an adult is basically dating without the sexual tension. You have to put yourself out there (cringe, I know) and initiate. Send the first text. Make the plans. Tell the girl at the gym you love her leggings and start a conversation. It’s awkward for everyone at first, but trust me—most people are out here wishing someone else would make the first move!
4. From URL to IRL
Breaking news: the Internet? Not just for memes and doom scrolling! It’s actually one of the best places to find your people. Whether you’re sliding into someone’s DMs after seeing their Spotify playlist or joining an online community based on your interests, the internet can help you find your future BFF.
That’s why we started Sisterhood Socials—so you can take those connections offline. Think of it as the perfect setting to meet like-minded women who get it. No awkward small talk, no pressure, just good vibes and a chance to build your circle IRL. Whether you’re looking for a brunch buddy or someone to binge-watch shows with, this is where you’ll find them.
5. Stop Chasing, Start Attracting
Let’s talk about that one-sided friendship. You know, the one where you’re constantly putting in effort but getting crumbs in return? Let it go. Friendships should feel balanced and mutual—not like you’re running a marathon to keep them alive. Stop chasing after people who don’t value you and focus on being the kind of woman who naturally draws in the energy you deserve.
6. Vulnerability = Key
Look, I get it—being vulnerable is hard. Nobody wants to risk rejection or feel like they’re oversharing. But here’s the thing: real friendships don’t happen without trust, and trust requires letting people in. Share your thoughts, open up about your feelings, and let people see the real you. The right people will meet you with the same energy.
7. Show Up—Even When It’s Inconvenient
Mildly hot take: Friendships take work. Like, actual effort. Sending the occasional meme doesn’t count as keeping in touch (though it is a love language). If you want a connection to last, you have to prioritize it. Make time for coffee dates, FaceTime calls, or even just a quick “thinking of you” text. The little things add up, and consistency is what keeps friendships alive! Think if it like having a plant, you have to water it and make sure it’s getting enough sunlight. Friendships are the same.
8. Find Your People Through Shared Passions
One of the easiest ways to connect with others is to put yourself in spaces where people already share your interests. Love books? Join a book club. Obsessed with fitness? Find a workout group. Into volunteering? Sign up for community projects. Being in environments where you naturally vibe with others takes the pressure off starting from scratch.
Making real friendships is messy, awkward, and occasionally uncomfortable—but it’s also so worth it. The key is being intentional, putting in the effort, and knowing when to let go of connections that aren’t serving you.
And hey, if you’re still not sure where to start, our Sisterhood Socials are here for you. Come hang out, make connections, and maybe even leave with a new BFF or two. Because life is hard enough—having a solid group of friends makes it so much easier.
Catch you at the next social?
With love Pretty Please xo